So, I say "fuck" a lot. Like, a lot a lot. I also say shit, damn, hell, motherfucking bitch cunt. Of course, I understand that there is a time and a place for cussing but I'm of the opinion that most people vastly underestimate this time and place.
I don't cuss when I'm making a formal presentation at work, or in front of my boss's boss. I don't spend a lot of time around kids but in deference to parents, I do curb my inclination to cuss around children. However, if I was to raise children(s) I wouldn't feel the need to protect them from four letter words.
It's not that I don't appreciate the power of words. In fact, I spend quite a lot of time thinking about it. I make a genuine effort to eradicate "he" as the default; it's layperson, not layman; it's humankind, not mankind. Douche is an acceptable insult because douching in the very epitome of the patriarchy at work. Cunt is not an acceptable insult, however it's a damn good term of endearment from one female to another.
But(t, ass, tits, bazoombahs) if I hear one more person (and by person I mean man) sniff about "sullying the discourse with crude language" or some such shit, I swear I will go coprolalia on their ass.
It's fine if you don't want to cuss but god damnit, sometimes when people get passionate about something they drop an F bomb or five. Does that make their argument less valid? No. Are you trying to exclude them based on, frankly, classist grounds? I would have to say, hell yes!
For hundreds of years, white men have been saying that only they are educated, intelligent, objective, unemotional enough to discuss and decide. Conveniently, this excludes anyone from a working class back ground, anyone with brown skin, anyone with a vagina, really anyone who doesn't present like all the classy white men talking about how great and smart they are. I say Fuck. That. Shit.
I say, get passionate. Be articulate in your own damn way, whether cussing or not. And if anybody tells you that you aren't good enough because you say shit? Say fuck the Man!